You Are In A Battle

Our super saturated sexual culture makes it a remarkable challenge for Christian men to live a pure life. If you are going to live a God-honoring and pure life, you have to be intentional. Every man knows the attack is relentless and it’s no wonder so many have willingly allowed themselves to become prisoner to pornography.

Sin never stands still, but it always loses it’s power whenever it is resisted. You must take intentional steps and put purposeful strategies in place for regaining and maintaining your moral bearings.  We have provided a few resources below to get you started, but remember, you cannot do it alone. We are here to draw alongside and help you. 

Secret sins find their strength in the darkness and isolation of silence.  When you expose them to the light, they begin to lose their power over you. 

Confession is the first step. Confessing to others helps you rebuild the strength and support structure that you need to make and maintain lasting life changes. 

 

Get Some Accountability

EMAIL US:  Contact us at the church for a complimentary and confidential meeting and strategy session, to chart your path out of the mire: TheBattle@ccflindale.org  

Life Groups – If you are not connected in a Life Group, it is a great way to get connected; call Roy Devisscher to get started: 903-787-9400 or email him at roy@ccflindale.org.  

Celebrate Recovery (CR) – Church of Garden Valley. Tim Hatcher, CELL: (918) 706-6033, Main CR leader. Celebrate Recovery is a Christ-centered, 12 step recovery program for anyone struggling with hurt, pain or addiction of any kind. Celebrate Recovery is a safe place to find community and freedom from the issues that are controlling our life.  Also available are recommendations for groups meeting outside of the area if you need more anonymity for follow through. 

 

Counseling Resources

Local: The Bridge Therapeutic Services (formerly Wood Counseling): https://www.thebridgetherapy.com/

Local: Graceworks – Green Acres Church : http://www.gabc.org/ministries/graceworks/

Dr. Doug Weiss – Heart to Heart Counseling Center – Author, online counseling, intensives: https://www.drdougweiss.com/

Every Man’s Battle Workshop – https://newlife.com/emb/

 

Other Resources

Resisting the Power of Pornography – by Steve Walters,  Focus on the Family

Digital Pornography Addiction – What you need to know and where to find help. By Timothy Allen

Resource List: Overcoming Sexual Brokenness – Focus on the Family

www.xxxchurch.com

 

Books

Pure Eyes: A Man’s Guide to Sexual Integrity (XXXChurch.com resource)

When it comes to sex and sexuality, men often find themselves in a losing battle against temptation. Whether it’s overt pornography or simply oversexualized images of women, media can be a man’s worst enemy. In this straightforward book, Craig Gross and Steven Luff help men understand and embrace the true purpose and role of sex in their lives. Whether single or married, all men must cope with sexual temptation–sometimes on a daily basis. This honest treatment of an uncomfortable issue will free men to experience forgiveness and renewal.

 

Delivered: True Stories of Men and Women who Turned from Porn to Purity

Deliverance from pornography is possible and these true stories prove it. The pious man whose fairytale marriage was almost destroyed by his fierce addiction. The young woman who escaped a broken and abusive childhood only to become ensnared in porn’s seamy underworld. The couple who tried everything to beat the pain and shame of porn in their home. The female musician who thought porn was a guy thing until she got hooked herself, and five other inspiring tales of liberation from the ravages of pornography. Delivered is proof that no one is beyond the reach of God’s healing grace.

Death by a Thousand Lies: My cover up, my crash and my resurrection from sexual addiction.

Death By a Thousand Lies may be the most gritty, painful and tender confession of an evangelical pastor ever written. Blaine Bartel stunningly chronicles the provocative story of his rise to fame as a star in the evangelical world and, more poignantly, his deadly descent into the secret sexual underworld of America.

If you ever channel surfed late at night in the 90’s, there is a pretty good chance you’ve seen Blaine. He hosted a nationally televised program called Fire by Nite. Think of Saturday Night Live for the younger Christian masses. As Fire by Nite grew in popularity, so did Blaine’s influence in the evangelical world. He found himself speaking at the most prominent Christian events in the nation, writing best-selling books and building Oneighty, the largest weekly student gathering in America, attracting 3000 young people every Wednesday night. There was one complication to Blaine’s soaring ministerial success. Privately he was a broken man. He had slowly become captive to pornography in his late twenties and before long it has escalated into an uncontrollable sexual addiction.

Though he hated what he had become, he lived in interminable fear of ever being discovered and strived to win the battle to defeat his shameful obsession alone. Twenty-five years later, the worst and best day of his life finally transpired. Blaine was exposed in the harshest way. National headlines. Scandal and disgrace. When the mask was finally torn off, he was shipped to Dr. Ralph Earle, one of the nations leading sexual addiction specialists, who upon hearing his story told Blaine, “You are the new poster child for sexual addiction. I honestly don’t know if you will ever find freedom.”

Eight years later, this is Blaine’s story. Told in his own words. It is brave and honest. Raw and unvarnished. And disruptively hopeful. This moving read is broken into three scenes from the theatrics of Blaine’s story.

• It begins with the cover-up. The red button. The deception and trickery. The insanity.

• And then the crash. A brave woman. National exposure. The loss of everything.

• And finally, resurrection. The comeback. Finding freedom for the first time. The transformational secrets. Today, Blaine professionally coaches men all over the world, guiding them out of sexual addiction and into a resurrected life of authentic freedom. He is also speaks to men everywhere, sharing his story and secrets to transformation. In the end, Death By a Thousand Lies will stun you with it’s stories, surprise you with its vulnerability and enlighten you with its secrets.

 

Every Man’s Battle: Winning the War on Sexual Temptation One Victory at a Time (The Every Man Series)

From movies and television, to print media and the Internet, men are constantly faced with the assault of sensual images. It is impossible to avoid such temptations… but, thankfully, not impossible to confront them and gain victory over them!

Millions have found Every Man’s Battle the single greatest resource for overcoming the struggle and remaining strong in the face of temptation. With extensive updates for a new generation, this phenomenal bestseller shares the stories of dozens who have escaped the trap of sexual immorality and presents a practical, detailed plan for any man who desires sexual integrity. 

Includes a comprehensive workbook and a special section for women, designed to help them understand and support the men they love.

 

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The Grace to Forgive a Porn Addiction