Sex Before Marriage is Wrong

by Heath Stoner
Stoner-Heath_cr_272x200Imagine being on the game show Jeopardy and the following question comes up:

“87% of single Christians think this sin is ok.”

The first contestant says, “What is lying?” Nope.

The second contestant says, “What is cheating on your taxes?” Nope.

The third contestants finally says the right answer, “What is having sex before marriage?” Yes.

According to the, 87% of singles think it is okay to have sex before they are married. This statistic is from polling on the Christian website Although this is not a scientific poll, I was amazed that 87% of people looking for a romantic partner on this site thought sex before marriage was a-ok.

Can you think of any sin in the Bible that 87% of people would think they are okay with?

So, is sex before marriage a sin or not?
I Corinthians 6:9 says…Do not be deceived: Neither the sexually immoral, nor idolaters, etc…will inherit the kingdom of God. And that is what some of you were.

Whenever I read the statement in the Bible, “do not be deceived,” I quickly pay attention because I may be deceived.  No one ever thinks they are deceived during the time they are deceived, but looking back we can see times that we were.
Many people say that sex before marriage feels good, looks good, connects you to your Bae (before anyone else), and it is not a big deal. The Bible says, “Do not be deceived about this.” It says that you used to think this was okay and maybe did this before you were a child of God. But now, according to I Corinthians 6:11, you have been washed, sanctified, and justified in the name of the Lord Jesus Christ and by the Spirit of our God.

If you are having sex before marriage, the Bible has good news.  It says in verse 18 to “Flee sexual immorality.” God actually tells us how to not have sex before marriage. He says to flee. Run away. Get out of Dodge.  Galatians 5:19 also says to flee sexual immorality. You need to run from sexual immortality like you are running from a fire.  If you do not run from fire it will overtake you. When it comes to sexual temptation, you need to run from it.

So, where do you run to? You run to God in prayer. If you are in a dating relationship, you do not put yourself in dark places like in a car at night. You run to a person you trust and share your struggle with them. You honor your girlfriend or boyfriend by realizing they were bought with a price so you should honor their body since you are not married to them (I Corinthian 6:20).

I Thessalonians 4:3,4,7 says, “God wants you to be holy and to stay away from sexual sins. He wants each of you to learn to control your own body in a way that is holy and honorable…God called us to be holy and does not want us to live in sin.”

Yes, God wants to control your body. One of the fruits of the spirit described in Galatians 5 is self-control. God has given you the spirit of self-control. It is inside of you. Let that fruit be shown daily in your life. You can do it through God’s strength.  It is a struggle to stay pure. Our strength comes in our struggle. God wants to empower you so you can stay strong sexually before you get married.


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